Men's Health - Men's Relationships - Family Harmony

The community generally has particular expectation of the acts and thoughts of men. Ever since childhood, men have been suppressed in the expression of emotions and seldom talk about mood and instinct, so that they are always under the constraint of their own thoughts. This has affected a husband in getting along with his wife. Do you have the following thoughts and difficulties? If yes, you may as well consult the experts' ideas that are beneficial to mental health. You will find that the same matter can be tackled from different angles, so that you can "turn obstacle to opportunity".

A husband is the head of a family and has to provide protection and shelter for his wife.

Never give a chance to himself to take a breath, thus making himself physically and mentally exhausted.

A family is built together by husband and wife together in which hardships and joys are shared with each other.
Please give your wife a chance to fight side by side with you.

A husband should take charge of external matters while his wife should take care of domestic matters. Housework is the bounden duty of a wife.

Being calculating in the share of housework will easily cause conflicts in a couple.

A good husband has to be "totally involved", sharing housework will even show your consideration.
Please give yourself a chance to "show your tenderness".

Always look back on the carefree life of being single and feel discontented with the present situation.

My wife is my lifelong companion and will accompany me in planning for our life together and facing the future.
Please give your wife a chance "to walk the lifelong path with you".

After a hard day's work, when I am home, my wife should get the meal ready and wait for me.

Only start from individual interests and disregard the actual situation would cause oneself to fall in the abyss of disappointment.

My wife has to go to work and do the housework. In fact, both of us have our difficulties. I believe that she has already done the best she can to care for and look after me.
Please give yourself a chance "to show your understanding".

A husband should always show the strong side so as to give a sense of security to his wife.

Only talk about the good news and not the bad news and keep the suffering to oneself.

A husband is also a human who has strong and weak times. He should boldly accept the fact and openly express himself.
Please give your wife a chance to hug you and comfort you.

On the emotional side, husband and wife may not aware that they have different needs, so they do not know how to support each other. Have you encountered the following difficulties of "being a husband"?

My wife complains that I always come home late and do not have time to keep her company.

When you are busy at work, it is not easy to squeeze time to develop the love between husband and wife. You can say a word of admiration to your wife every day and create more chances of communication.

How come the floor is so dusty and my wife does not get it cleaned.

The family belongs to both of you, so you should share the housework and be in rapport. A good husband has to be "totally involved" to build a happy family.

Recently, there is not enough work to do and I have less income, so my wife has to find other means of livelihood. How useless I am.

Amidst the economic downturn, unemployment or underemployment is very common. As husband, you should never feel inferior or useless. The livelihood of a family is not necessary to be wholly supported by one person. The burden will be lighter if shared by two rather than one.

I have to travel between Hong Kong and the mainland, as husband and wife, we seldom see each other and thus feel very distant.

Every chance of getting together should be cherished. The husband can show more care and make a special date for the wife so as to develop the love for each other. Sometimes, the husband can show concern to the wife by making phone calls.

I have been at cold war with my wife for two weeks. I feel so awful. But I don't mind if she cares or not!

Remaining silent cannot solve the problem. As a courageous husband, you should talk about the problem frankly. Be active to show your concern and let your wife feel cared for, so as to form a good and communicative relationship.

As husband and wife, we both feel persecuted at work. When we go home, we are always in bad mood and feel awful.

The stress at work is one of the main reasons that affect our physical and mental well-being. Sometimes, we will bring the negative emotions at work back home, thus affecting us in getting along with our family. Learning to share your feelings help reduce the stress and establish relationships. When feeling joyful, share the laughter with your wife; when in hardships, let her share your worries.

The principle of living together as husband and wife lies in frankness and understanding. To be a smart husband, you can take the following hints:

Frankly talk to your wife about your difficulties;

Accept your wife's difficulties, give her space and show your understanding by action;

Have more tolerance, endurance and admiration and less criticism and complaint.

Arrange special and creative moments of getting together to have more communication;

Say a word of admiration to your wife every day;

Take the initiative to show concern, let your wife feel cared for;

Share the household matters with your wife (such as the teaching of children and allocation of household expenditure);

When feeling joyful, share the laughter with your wife; when in hardship, share the tears with her;

When in favourable circumstances, share the achievements with your wife; when in adversity, let her accompany you to overcome the obstacles.